Farewell

Dear friends and family


We will say farewell to Evelyn in the crematorium Westlede, next Thursday 27th of August at 13h30. Address is Smalle Heerweg 60, 9080 Lochristi.

Karen en Elke, I can not find words for you my dear sisters, only a million kisses. Dear friends and family, the tsunami of support and consolation we received was dazzling, please also join Bastian, me and our families next Thursday.

Final day

6 Am phone call, we have to say goodbye. At 8 AM Evelyn will slowly give up the fight. Bastian and myself have lost the best mother, the perfect partner, a coach for life, a manager in how to live a happy life but above all, our base and stability. I tell her a thousand times I love her before she leaves, anyway she knew that already.

Whereever you are my love, I wish I can kiss you and dream again.

I have this afternoon the hardest conversation in my life with my 5 year old son, who got stabbed in his innocent heart.

In the evening Evelyn´s parents and sisters arrive, they got hit by the news in the arrival hall at the airport.

Friends and family, this is my last post except for the one on the funeral I will publish soon. I was not able to read your reactions so far, but I am sure they will help me to get out of the black hole that is coming as a tsunami in my direction. Thanks for the amazing support and love. I want to tell you on Evelyn´s will on the funeral and to all who want to hear about it. Thanks

3rd day evening

In the evening, everything goes wrong. Results of the brain scan show no sign of life. On top of that, vital functions start to worsen again, we prepare for the worst.

3rd day - afternoon

4 PM: got some more support from guys as Ronny. Evelyn stays stable what is good and bad news. More time to recuperate, on the other side she doesn't do it: she stays stable zithout getting better and after one day and a half stable that is not good news. Also, Evelyn will loose her right leg, due to heavy medication and continuous mechanical pumping of her blood in that spot. She can live with only one leg, as long as her heart moves we can talk to her and give her support. Amor, amor porfavor acepta toda mi fuerza para soportar a tu corazon, siempre me has soportado, ahora acepta que te paso fuerza para nosotros.

The night should be calm. Please, friends and family, pray that Evelyn's heart gets the resistance to take over again. It has to happen now.

Day 3: wake up

Evelyn stayed stable through the night, the medication has not changed. Everything quite, I hope it will stay quite. We are now Tuesday morning, I can call this day 3 and stop counting hours. My love, another night without you by my side, but that is nothing if we can catch it up later. Please fight another day.

Monday evening

10 PM Just back from the hospital, she made some progress, but little. There is a complication in her leg, that might require a serious operation, but no certainty so far. The most important, she stays stable, and keeps getting better very slowly. Indeed there is hope that it might be a quite night. Countdown to 48 hours of stable life and quite some progress.

Monday morning

Monday moring, 5 AM. She made it through the night! She made it for over 24 hours, a lot people wouldn't have expected. But she did, she is a fighter. Elke calls intensive care, they have been reducing medication but have noticed an infection int he wound. She will be operated in the room to remove the bandage that she carries inside to stop the bleeding, That was planned for within 2 or 3 days, but they will have to do it today. And know what, she takes it again. At 11Am we go to subscrive Bastian in his new school and when there my sister calls, she stayed stable and more even, they found reaction that her brain is working. A great relief, again she proved wrong the doctors who told us that brain damage or inactivity was very likely. Another point of hope, my wife can make it.

We have one more visit at 8 PM, and counting the time again. But this time she will go into the night without too many risks, she is going to stay at least stable.